Abusive relationships. Wow! I'm a very talkative person and not much leaves me speechless but where do I even begin on this one?! I think a good starting point would be getting to know if you are in one or not. So many teenagers don't even realise the fact that they are in an abusive relationship. I'm sure so many of you reading this would have thought "My boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't hit me. Clearly this can't be me!" but lets think again. Did you know there are other forms of abuses too? For example somebody trying to control every aspect of your life? Dictating all the rules to you and threatening you in various forms if you disagree? Constantly checking your phone or e-mails and stopping you from talking to someone even when it was just a normal conversation? Pushing your family and friends out of your life? Sounds familiar? Well lets hold our horses for a minute before hitting the panic button. When you're studying psychology and read about psychological illnesses you feel like you have all those symptoms for all those illnesses but what you are told is that everyone has these symptoms but they are very mild and you need help only when these symptoms hamper your regular functioning. That can be related to an abusive relationship too i feel. Someone who loves, well love is a big word for me at least so lets stick to like, so a person who likes you will obviously be scared of losing you or want to spend time with you but its a problem only when they feel the need to talk to you all the time and when they start pushing people out of your life because of the mere fact that someone is your friend or makes you happy and when you really need to think about it or hit the panic button is when s/he threatens you with something if you do not agree. Hit all the tick marks there? Panicking? Thinking what should you do now? Well first of all sweetheart take a deeeeep breath. Its going to be okay! You can handle this shit. So here's what you should do, you should tell a friend or your elder sibling. The most effective way would be telling your parents but considering how in our country such relationships are still frowned upon most of us wouldn't want to do that but honestly its the best way out. My dad has always said this to me that no matter what shit i've done including murdering someone the first thing i should do is tell him and well we'll see what do to. Once when i was in 10th grade such a situation did arise, not murder and not even an abusive relationship, just some person threatening me with certain stuff and though i was really hesitant in telling my dad about it but fortunately i did and he took care of it. I didn't get grounded, screamed at, lectured or anything! He told me where i was at fault and then took care of it. Sounds surprisingly easy doesn't it? Yes your parents might get mad at you just for the fact of having a relationship but honestly the wrath of your parents would be nothing compared to the bad stuff that could and is happening in your relationship! I'm not saying that it's going to be all pleasant and rainbows and butterflies after telling your parents. They might be mad at you but i've learned this a long time ago that doing the right thing doesn't ensure you a happy ending but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't do it! It probably and hopefully wouldn't get that bad but i'm sure all of us have seen gumrah and crime patrol and whatever such shows and we know that we don't live in a fantasy land! Crime is a harsh reality and we think that we are too smart to let such stuff happen to us but are we? We can be if we open our eyes and look at things as they are and not as we want to see them! The easiest way to do that is to listen to your family and friends. They probably aren't lying to you about stuff. Honestly why would they? If your friends really do love you they won't judge you or give you bad crappy advice or lie about the fact that you probably are in an abusive relationship.
