So this Ernest Hemingway guy said that the best way to find out if you can trust someone is to trust them. Fancy guys and their fancy quotes i tell you! If you're anything like me it takes A LOT for you to trust someone. At this point in my life i'd say i trust two people. Three at max. And here is this fancy guy telling me to just trust people blindly! Like whaaaaat?!
The problems i have with that is well first of all i really am scared of trusting people so much so that if someone shows some SLIGHT sign which makes me doubt whether i can trust them or not i drop them like a hot potato (not really). And then you all asked why i'm still single!
Honest confession, i really do have issues trusting people. I take one step towards trusting someone and then take five steps back and it took me a lot of time to understand that i do this. But there's a very simple way to find out if you do the same thing, just count the number of people you trust with your life (not including family members) and if you can count them on your fingers, WELCOME TO THE CLUB! :D *throws confetti* *shoots random people*
And i asked people you trust. Not the number of friends you have. (Yeah there's a difference)
If you've been reading pretty much all my blogs you know the pattern by now. In case you don't, the pattern is i state something effed up i do and then i tell you how i'm trying to change it. So well. Change. Trust.
What word did i forget? Oh yeah. Faith.
Sometimes, in any sort of a relationship, people make a mistake (or a few) but the torturous part is we feel the mistake was our's. We made the mistake of trusting somebody who then went on and did what we were scared about since the start.
When it comes to relationships i'm sort of a pessimist. I am literally biting my nails waiting for the inevitable. Some might say that people like me wish it to life but what if we don't? What if that really is the fate of every relationship?
Another fancy guy said to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved and do i agree with this guy! As hard as it may sound to sometimes you just have to have a little faith in people. Some day someone might come along and give you every reason to trust them even when you keep looking for that one reason not to and if you are anything like me you'll be looking every minute just for that one reason however tiny it may be, thinking "What's the catch?" and this is wrong. You have to stop doing this to yourself. I've come up with a sort of a "plan" or this little thing i do when i doubt somebody, firstly if you are really anxious calm yourself down and do this only when you are sure that you are calm. Close your eyes and just feel the faith. Don't think or do anything. It's sort of hard to put into words but think of faith like a garden and think that you've closed your eyes and are just feeling the roses or flowers brush through your hands and if a cactus pricks you then you have your answer but if it didn't believe what you felt. Believe the faith you have in this person.
For some people this may be a relatively easy thing to do but for some of us trusting a person is a very big thing.
“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.” - Invincible
The problems i have with that is well first of all i really am scared of trusting people so much so that if someone shows some SLIGHT sign which makes me doubt whether i can trust them or not i drop them like a hot potato (not really). And then you all asked why i'm still single!
Honest confession, i really do have issues trusting people. I take one step towards trusting someone and then take five steps back and it took me a lot of time to understand that i do this. But there's a very simple way to find out if you do the same thing, just count the number of people you trust with your life (not including family members) and if you can count them on your fingers, WELCOME TO THE CLUB! :D *throws confetti* *shoots random people*
And i asked people you trust. Not the number of friends you have. (Yeah there's a difference)
If you've been reading pretty much all my blogs you know the pattern by now. In case you don't, the pattern is i state something effed up i do and then i tell you how i'm trying to change it. So well. Change. Trust.
What word did i forget? Oh yeah. Faith.
Sometimes, in any sort of a relationship, people make a mistake (or a few) but the torturous part is we feel the mistake was our's. We made the mistake of trusting somebody who then went on and did what we were scared about since the start.
When it comes to relationships i'm sort of a pessimist. I am literally biting my nails waiting for the inevitable. Some might say that people like me wish it to life but what if we don't? What if that really is the fate of every relationship?
Another fancy guy said to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved and do i agree with this guy! As hard as it may sound to sometimes you just have to have a little faith in people. Some day someone might come along and give you every reason to trust them even when you keep looking for that one reason not to and if you are anything like me you'll be looking every minute just for that one reason however tiny it may be, thinking "What's the catch?" and this is wrong. You have to stop doing this to yourself. I've come up with a sort of a "plan" or this little thing i do when i doubt somebody, firstly if you are really anxious calm yourself down and do this only when you are sure that you are calm. Close your eyes and just feel the faith. Don't think or do anything. It's sort of hard to put into words but think of faith like a garden and think that you've closed your eyes and are just feeling the roses or flowers brush through your hands and if a cactus pricks you then you have your answer but if it didn't believe what you felt. Believe the faith you have in this person.
For some people this may be a relatively easy thing to do but for some of us trusting a person is a very big thing.
“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.” - Invincible
