First things first, if you're looking for conventional dating tips on how to make him/her like you trust me this is the last article you should be reading!
Hi. My name is Ananya and i do not understand dating.
I come across scores of articles on how to make your crush like you back and all that stuff and most of the advice given involves playing some or the other form of mind games or they tell you vague signs that may show that someone likes you.
I honestly don't understand any of this. I am what most people term as brutally honest. It translates roughly to someone with a big mouth who can't be politically correct. So naturally i don't agree with any of the advice these people have to give.
Dating has been so over-hyped honestly and so is the notion of love. No really! The life goal of most people is to find someone to spend their life with! I don't judge people (I do but i don't) usually so well whatever your goal is you go for it! What I really don't understand is the need for people to play games or pretend or just some sort of trickery to make someone like you. First of all, doesn't it bother people that the whole basis of the relationship is based on a lie? and how long can something like this last? is this why the divorce rates are so high?
Why can't we just keep things simple? Why can't you just walk up to someone you like and ask them out for a coffee or a movie or whatever!? Why do you have to go through all those mind games and stuff to make sure that they like you and then ask? Is the thought of rejection so bad? I agree it is bad. No one likes rejection! But what's the point of tricking someone into liking you! Or worse still lying to them to make them like you!
So many people get into relationships and after a year or so complain about how people have changed. True everyone changes but the change can't be so drastic right? I guess it happens because people pretend to be someone they aren't to make someone like them and i, well, i just CANNOT.
For the most part i guess i'm single because i am unapologetically myself. I don't pretend to be someone i'm not around someone i like to make them like me. What's the point of being with someone who can't like the real you?
Let's critically analyse how bullshit these dating tips can be. I've chosen one random website which gave the following tips.
1. If you want a boy to love you, then you have to look like a fun person to be around. Whenever he sees you, you should have a big smile on your face, do something silly, and be giggling or laughing with a group of friends.
So any one of you who is an introvert, end of story for you sister! Nobody wants to date someone who DOESN'T have a retarded smile plastered on her face all the time! okay? So you better start pretending to be an extrovert.
2. Act a bit coy by talking softly, not interrupting when the guy talks, and avoiding overly vulgar language. To seem a bit innocent, don't act like you know too much about the more unseemly elements of life, and try blushing if an inappropriate topic comes up.
So cuteness is the key to finding true love. Be demure. Be shy. Be the damsel in distress. Nobody wants an independent woman who actually has an opinion about things. I might as well give this up and get 99 cats already then.
Hi. My name is Ananya and i do not understand dating.
I come across scores of articles on how to make your crush like you back and all that stuff and most of the advice given involves playing some or the other form of mind games or they tell you vague signs that may show that someone likes you.
I honestly don't understand any of this. I am what most people term as brutally honest. It translates roughly to someone with a big mouth who can't be politically correct. So naturally i don't agree with any of the advice these people have to give.
Dating has been so over-hyped honestly and so is the notion of love. No really! The life goal of most people is to find someone to spend their life with! I don't judge people (I do but i don't) usually so well whatever your goal is you go for it! What I really don't understand is the need for people to play games or pretend or just some sort of trickery to make someone like you. First of all, doesn't it bother people that the whole basis of the relationship is based on a lie? and how long can something like this last? is this why the divorce rates are so high?
Why can't we just keep things simple? Why can't you just walk up to someone you like and ask them out for a coffee or a movie or whatever!? Why do you have to go through all those mind games and stuff to make sure that they like you and then ask? Is the thought of rejection so bad? I agree it is bad. No one likes rejection! But what's the point of tricking someone into liking you! Or worse still lying to them to make them like you!
So many people get into relationships and after a year or so complain about how people have changed. True everyone changes but the change can't be so drastic right? I guess it happens because people pretend to be someone they aren't to make someone like them and i, well, i just CANNOT.
For the most part i guess i'm single because i am unapologetically myself. I don't pretend to be someone i'm not around someone i like to make them like me. What's the point of being with someone who can't like the real you?
Let's critically analyse how bullshit these dating tips can be. I've chosen one random website which gave the following tips.
1. If you want a boy to love you, then you have to look like a fun person to be around. Whenever he sees you, you should have a big smile on your face, do something silly, and be giggling or laughing with a group of friends.
So any one of you who is an introvert, end of story for you sister! Nobody wants to date someone who DOESN'T have a retarded smile plastered on her face all the time! okay? So you better start pretending to be an extrovert.
2. Act a bit coy by talking softly, not interrupting when the guy talks, and avoiding overly vulgar language. To seem a bit innocent, don't act like you know too much about the more unseemly elements of life, and try blushing if an inappropriate topic comes up.
So cuteness is the key to finding true love. Be demure. Be shy. Be the damsel in distress. Nobody wants an independent woman who actually has an opinion about things. I might as well give this up and get 99 cats already then.
I honestly cannot go through more of these! If someone is going to want to be with me i'd want them to accept that i am fully capable of having a mental breakdown if there's veggies in my pizza (that legitimately happened once), that i am a mess most of the times, that i piss people off because of my political incorrectness and i'd want them to see through all that and find something they find worth loving. Love would be when someone knows all those things about you and in their twisted mind they find all these habits adorable! So that five years down the line i don't have to hear how they did not get together with me expecting this! Isn't that what you'd want? So my advice would be just be yourself. As fucked up and goofy or shy or stupid or whatever it is that you are! That's the only way you'll know if someone really likes you or not. Sure it'll take you a lot of time to find someone this way and sure that cute guy or girl you like might not like you for being you but honestly is that so bad? Is someone who doesn't even like the real you worth dating? You be the judge.
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